阅读理解 Wherever you go, there you are．This is the title of a fantastic book by JonKabat Zinn．Often when going through a difficult time, some think about making a major change, a change of a job or residence．Will this really help? Of course if you are being abused or stressed, such action may work．But for the most part, if we change nothing about ourselves, we merely take what is inside of us wherever we wander． In therapy(心理疗法), I have seen individuals who have literally taken geographic treatment, making a major change out of their city or state．What was most discovered was that at first, the change was fun and exciting．But after a period of time, after the“newness”wore off they still saw people as they had seen them before．If they felt taken advantage of, they still felt that way．If they had low self-esteem, they felt the same way． Is there an answer to this problem? Work on yourself first．In 12-step programs, we say no major changes for a year．That is because people need to see who they really are without their addiction．And it takes about a year to give up your system and to find out who you really are emotionally． Taking some time to clearly focus and see what the real issues are is very important．A quick change without any forethought is often merely an escape from reality． And remember, happiness is an inside job． | 
