When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of you

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly 1 to your physical and 2  health.

"People who forgive 3 less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., 4 of Forgive for Good. "So it can help 5 on the .wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and 6 people to feel more vital."

So how do you start the forgiveness? Try 7 these steps:

Calm yourself. To defuse (缓解) your 8 and try a simple stress-management technique.

"Take a couple of breaths and think of 9 that gives you pleasure: a 10 scene in nature, someone you love," Luskin says.

Don’t 11 an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no 12 of apologizing," Luskin says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same 13 . So if you wait for people to apologize ,you could be waiting a(n) 14 long time. "Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean 15 to the person who upsets you.

Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your 16 gives power to the person who caused you pain. "17 of focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness 18 you," Luskin says.

Try to see things from the other person’s perspective (立场；视角). If you empathize (有同感) with that person, you may 19 that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear even love.

Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better 20 and better sleep patterns. Don’t forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Luskin says.

"But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it. "1.

A.beneficial

B.harmful

C.helpless

D.suitable

2.

A.chemical

B.wealthy

C.technical

D.mental

3.

A.own

B.show

C.direct

D.prove

4.

A.author

B.owner

C.professor

D.publisher

5.

A.insist

B.save

C.wait

D.depend

6.

A.require

B.wish

C.invite

D.allow

7.

A.forgiving

B.turning

C.following

D.counting

8.

A.sadness

B.anger

C.hunger

D.energy

9.

A.something

B.anything

C.nothing

D.everything

10.

A.thoughtful

B.dull

C.beautiful

D.still

11.

A.call for

B.hunt for

C.bid for

D.wait for

12.

A.invention

B.invitation

C.intention

D.attention

13.

A.way

B.means

C.method

D.approach

14.

A.helpfully

B.carefully

C.patiently

D.awfully

15.

A.giving in

B.giving away

C.giving up

D.giving out

16.

A.wound

B.hurt

C.cut

D.damage

17.

A.Because

B.In honour

C.Instead

D.In search

18.

A.around

B.above

C.beneath

D.below

19.

A.forget

B.realize

C.announce

D.doubt

20.

A.housing

B.salary

C.safety

D.appetite

试题答案

ADBAB DCBAC DCADA BCABD

1.A。但是你可以试着宽容一点,这对你身体和精神的（mental）健康都是出奇的有益的（beneficial）.

2.D。解析见上题。

3.B。显示（show）,懂得宽恕的人更有活力,胃口和睡眠情况也很好.

4.A。《宽恕的益处》一书的作者（author）弗德里格.卢斯科恩博士认为。

5.B。save on节省。它可以帮助我们止住悲伤和眼泪。

6.D。allow sb to do让某人做某事。让人们感觉更有生命力。

7.C。试试以下（following）步骤。

8.B。为了缓解你的愤怒（anger）。

9.A。摒住呼吸并且想一些能够让你快乐的事情（something）。

10.C。大自然的美丽（beautiful）景色、或者你喜爱的人。

11.D。wait for等待。如果你等待别人的道歉。

12.C。have no intention of doing不打算做。很多时候那个伤害你的人是永远不会想到要道歉的。

13.A。他们可能是故意要伤害你或者只是看问题的方式和你不一样（the same way）而已。

14.D。awfully非常地。如果你等待别人的道歉，你可能要等上很长时间。

15.A。give in to向……屈服。牢牢记住有一颗宽恕的心不是意味着要你接受那个使你受伤的人的行为。

16.B。精神上的藐视伤害（hurt）可以给那个给你带来伤痛的人以压力。

17.C。instead of而不是。而不是关注你受伤的情感。

18.A。学会去发现那些伴随（around）你的爱、美好和友好。

19.B。你会意识到（realize）伤害你的那个他或她的行为是出于无知、恐惧甚至是爱。

20.D。有更好的胃口（appetite），更好的睡眠。