A. Be brave in your requests B. You get what you tolerate C. Don’t feel guilty o

A. Be brave in your requests

B. You get what you tolerate

C. Don’t feel guilty of your requests

D. Don’t think others are mind readers

E. Don’t make a “no” mean more than it does

F. Be specific about what you want and when you wantit

Be Bold: Ask for What You Really Want!

Have you ever been in a situation that is causing youto feel annoyed, frustrated, or unappreciated? We all experience them, butoften we don’t have the courage to change them or ask for what we really want.Complaining about your problems never solves them. Only when you get clearabout what you want, and are willing to ask for it, will you experience notonly a lot less stress in your life, but greater success in your relationship,career and life. Here are five tips to help you on your way.

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We often think our bosses, colleagues and even ourfriends can understand our thought even without being told. So when they don’tact as we’d like, we feel hurt and upset. For any relationship to develop, bothparties have to communicate their needs. Whether it’s how you’d like yourcolleague to communicate with you about a work project, or how you’d like yourboss to assess your work, it’s necessary to convey what you want.

2.________________

When asking for what you really want, you will seldom,if ever, be given more than what you have the courage to ask for. So don’tweaken your requests to avoid being turned down. Think about what your idealoutcome would be and then confidently, courageously, ask for it. While you maynot always get as much as you asked for, you will get more than you would haveotherwise.

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In the workplace, the biggest reason for unmetexpectations is a lack of understanding of exactly what is expected. A requestthat holds water needs to make clear not just what you want, but also the timelimit within which you want it. That is, both a clear “what” and “when”. Forexample, “Could you please get the monthly sales report to me by midday Friday?

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Whether it’s asking your friend to show up on time, orasking your colleague to stop making jokes in your presence, every day, throughwhat you say and do, you teach others how to treat you. Letting others knowwhat you will （and will not）put upwith and what you expect from them, is important to your wellbeing andsuccess—at home and work.

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In reality you won’t always get what you ask for. Yourboss won’t always give you the pay raise you’d like and your parents may notagree to mind your three kids every second weekend. When people say no, you cantake it really personally and decide never to speak to them again—or you canaccept it graciously and move on. At least now you know where you stand and canplan accordingly.

Asking for less than you really want—from yourself,from others and from life—doesn’t serve anyone. Remember that fortune favorsthe bold. So make bigger, better, bolder requests, and ask for what you reallywant. Who knows…you might just get it!

试题答案

【答案】

1.D

2.A

3.F

4.B

5.E

【解析】

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